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Before You Start an Affair

When a relationship hits the rocks, one of the easiest situations to find yourself in is having an affair! Relationships with people outside your relationship can often be more appealing than staying faithful. Affairs are new, exciting and a reminder that we are still desired by others. These are reasons why some people find themselves having an affair. The downside of an affair is only ever faced when your partner or their partner finds out.

If you are considering an affair, relationships are about to become difficult for you. Whether that relationship be your long-term one or the affair you’re embarking on. You might think that your long-term relationship is bad now but just wait until your partner discovers you’ve been cheating on them.

Your partner will feel betrayed, angry and devastated. The affair will devastate your relationship. Instead of turning to someone outside your relationship remember why you got together. No relationship is without problems, the trick is to work at remaining focused and committed when problems hit. Talk to your partner instead of an appealing outsider.

Explain clearly to your partner how you feel. Just because you are feeling this way about your relationship, it doesn’t mean it’s the same for your partner. They might have no idea you feel the relationship is in trouble, the only way you will know for sure is if you talk to them.
It is crucial that you both take the time to listen to each other. Avoid judging and criticising each other, because this will not make either of you feel you can be open and honest about your feelings. If your partner feels they are going to be mocked or criticised, then they will clam up and so will you.

If you have already embarked upon an affair, then you need to weigh up what you want. Perhaps the relationship is well and truly over? You will only know this if you explore with honesty and sincerity how you feel. There is no good for either you or your partner in staying in a relationship that is just not working. If the relationship is toxic, then the answer is to end it and with as little harm as possible.

Affair? Relationships? They both take time and effort and opting for an affair is not necessarily the easiest option you could take. Whatever you’re doing, and whoever you’re doing it with, you need to be careful. Your lover might be casual about it but then one or both you see it more than a fling and your lover starts making demands about what they want from you.

Think long and hard about the problems in your relationship. Is your relationship worth fighting for? If it is then you must do everything you can to avoid an affair!

Relationships can be so great!

An affair just makes your life a lot harder and painful.

About David Lawson

Finding the Light is a locally owned and operated counselling and life coaching business based in Bundaberg. We seek to empower our clients to find their way forward to a better life by using the approaches of counselling or coaching. If this blog article has raised more questions please contact us by email or call us on 0407 585 497 to arrange a time for us to discuss the article. Mention this blog and we will give you a FREE 30 minute session to discuss.

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