Anger is often an all-consuming emotion which often has a destructive impact on your emotional and physical well-being. As well how you express it, your anger it can also damage those around you.

When you feel yourself getting angry, ask yourself the following seven questions.

By regularly challenging your angry thoughts you will be in a better position to do something about your anger rather than just being angry.

1. What am I angry about?

2. What’s the problem, and whose problem, is it?

3. How can I sort out who’s responsible for what?

4. How can I learn to express my anger in a way that won’t leave me feeling helpless and powerless?

5. When I’m angry, how can I clearly communicate my position without becoming defensive or attacking others?

6. What risks and losses might I face if I become clearer and more assertive?

7. If getting angry is not working for me, what can or will I do differently?